Everyone has experienced the emotion of anger at some point in their lives. It’s not rare to find yourself with anger issues, and it can often lead to outbursts from children. Believe it or not but the constant bombardment of violent images in movies, television, and music has caused many kids to become desensitized to violence. This is a bad thing, as it has taught them that anger is the only solution to a problem.
Although most kids have tantrums occasionally, they should not be alarming. They could be signs of a serious problem if they happen a lot. A lot of kids have anger issues that are usually triggered by a variety of conditions. Some of these conditions can be caused by ADHD, anxiety, and learning disorders.
There are some skills children can learn to help them manage their emotions. They can also learn to control their anger and frustration. Having a calm and positive approach to dealing with tantrums is important. Set rules and punishments, and reward good behaviour. But, just as important is to praise and reward those who behave nicely.
Although medication can help manage some of the symptoms of defiant behaviour and anxiety, it can also improve the conditions for working with those conditions but that’s never the best solution. Families can also help by developing a behavioural approach that addresses these issues.
Here are 12 hacks to handle an angry child:
#1. Understanding what triggers anger can help parents manage their kids’ outbursts. For instance, if your child constantly gets out of the way when school is called, implementing strategies can help keep them from misbehaving.
#2. When a child exhibits defiant behaviour, the actions of the parent or caregiver can have a negative effect on the child’s development. This is why it’s important to establish a positive, step-by-step parenting program designed to help parents manage their child’s behaviour.
#3. Instead of giving in, teach them how to manage their tantrums.
#4. Stay calm and consistent when dealing with kids. This will help you manage your emotions and make it easier to follow through with the consequences. Having a positive response can also help teach kids how to behave properly.
#5. Instead of focusing on minor misbehaviour, praise the positive actions of the child. It avoids repeating the same negative attention that can reinforce their behaviour.
#6. One thing to do is wait until the meltdown is over. You don’t want to cause a child to feel sorry for themselves.
#7. You and your child need to build a toolkit for self-soothing. Activities like slow breathing can help you get through tough times.
#8. Using an example is the best way to teach kids how to manage their anger. It’s also a great way to teach them how to calm down after seeing someone else do it. For instance, imagine that you got a phone call from the auto shop. Suddenly, you’re furious, and they’re standing nearby. Instead, you can take a long walk in the house take control over your emotions and then respond.
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#9. It’s important to get used to the idea that anger is contagious. Set a rule in the home that states that when we’re in control, we solve problems. This can be done by saying “I need a time out” or “I’ll talk about this later.”
#10. Developing a feeling vocabulary helps kids express their anger in a more natural way. List all the words that can tell others how angry he is. Hang it up, and practice using it often. Use the words “I’m angry” or “I’m really angry” to describe how you feel.
#11. There are many ways to help kids get calm down when they start to get angry. But most kids never get the chance to try these other possibilities. Instead, they tend to get into trouble because of the only acceptable way to express their anger. Tell your child that we all have little warning signs that tell us when we’re getting angry. They can help us stay calm and avoid getting into trouble.
#12. Knowing the warning signs of anger can help kids manage their emotions better. A very effective way to help kids calm down is to use a formula called 3 – 10. This strategy works by taking deep breaths and then putting them all together in your head.
It’s not an easy task to teach kids a new way to deal with their anger. However, research shows that it takes at least 21 days of repeated practice to learn new behaviors. This strategy will help teach them the same skill over and over again, and it’s the best way to combat the endless barrage of violence in their lives.